How to Focus on Yourself — and Only Yourself
You should be your A team
By Techno Trace - October 14, 2021 - In Blog, FITNESS
ULTIMATELY you are the one who has to be with yourself till the end. No matter how good your friends and family are you always have room for improvement.
Once you think consciously and practically it is utterly important to keep on increasing your value.
One way to improve your value is to keep on learning one or the other thing. It may suit your interests and your passions or it may be something your circumstances demand.
You can only find yourself once you start spending some time with your inner child. Take a deep breath, go out in solitude stop judging and criticizing yourself, just accept the way you are. Tell your inner child that you love the person inside out who is craving your attention and acceptance.
There are 8 effective ways to focus on yourself
Set Hourly Goals
At the beginning of every hour ask yourself “What do I want to accomplish by the end of this hour.” This allows you to keep a flexible schedule while focusing on a particular task. One step at a time. Multiple tasks can distract you.
Get better acquainted with yourself
“To become acquainted with oneself is a terrible shock.” – Carl Jung. Emotionally committed relationships bring excitement and passion into our lives, especially when they are new. Over time, however, we come across roadblocks
based on personal issues that can distance us from our partners. When we first enter into a committed relationship, we may think that we have found the answer to life’s problems, that we have a partner to share in daily turmoil, that we will never be alone again, that it will be smooth sailing from here on out. If we base relationships on these assumptions, however, we may be sorely disappointed when our partners fail to live up to these expectations. There is a strong probability that if we look to another person to provide fulfillment, we will begin to focus on the failings of that person as the cause of our disappointment. This pattern is the reason for a great deal of discord in committed relationships. Carl Jung described this in her book.
You need to build a more complete picture of yourself as a person, outside the influence of anyone else.
Make sure you’re seeking what you want
Don’t depend on others too much even if they are your loved ones. You need to focus on yourself to build a life that you want for yourself without asking for anyone’s validation. You can ask for suggestions but the final decision should be always yours individual.
Maybe you’ve had little luck with dating. Your loved ones reassure you that eventually you’ll find the right person and encourage you to keep trying, since getting married and having children are important parts of life, most people think.
It is wrong to let society decide what you want or what should you do in your own life. Getting married or quitting a job should be your choice.
Do the things that your heart and soul allowing you to follow not your family, friends, and society. Honor your choices.
Create a self-care plan
The goal of self-care is to help us become happier. So it's not about following a schedule for yoga, meditation, gym, meals, etc. It's about asking yourself what you truly want in life. If your tooth starts to ache, you book a time to go to the dentist. This means f some part of you or a thing you own has a problem, you do your best to fix it. That’s self-help. Self-help is not using a motivation technique to learn to code so you can become a bigger success and escape your feelings of worthlessness.
Self-care means the desires of your heart and brain.
Having compassion for yourself is no different than having compassion for others. Think about what the experience of compassion feels like. Then, to have compassion for others you must notice that they are suffering. If you ignore that homeless person on the street, you can’t feel compassion for how difficult his or her experience is. Second, compassion involves feeling moved by others’ suffering so that your heart responds to their pain.
Compassion means to “suffer with”, you need to forgive and show the highest compassion to yourself first, only then you will be able to help others.’
Spend time doing things you love
If you are one of those, who always cares for other people’s comfort then it is high time you should think about yous too. If you are comfortable there is no point to please everyone because it will be going to hamper your mental health a lot.
You should always do things which will make you happy from inside, not just for the internet, try to be happy in real life as well.
Avoid the comparison trap
To stop comparing yourself to others, you need to understand the following:
- Every person has different goals and desires.
- Every person has different priorities in life.
- Many people are miserable but don’t show it.
- Each person has been handed a different set of cards.
- After understanding the above, you need to put the majority of your attention to yourself.
Focus on what you value, rather than what society values. It’s not selfishness to not follow the crowd.
Examine your values
It is not abnormal to adopt different values than the others. You can have different values which are absolutely fine. Once you identify your values, you can begin to explore ways to incorporate them into your life in meaningful ways. Some values, such as bravery, optimism, or adventurousness, might come naturally to you.
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